Dating online in contrast to its counterpart in brick and mortar world, carries one of subtle and yet great advantages. When we meet someone online even for the first time, we already know something about him or she. This is great, because it makes things easier for us. Shy people must love it, because, this helps to overcome the dread of being rejected, which usually makes a first move so difficult in a real world.

First exchange of emails, online chat and maybe even phone talk will let you make the first moves, which will pass you over that initial barrier. So you are there, but still, everything you will know about your online partner is just visual, textual and audio (perhaps) info, which this person found appropriate to be passed to you. Only real date will help to fill all blanks.

Finding right moment to meet in person (or to quit at once) is a key to success in online dating. That moment comes at some point in every virtual romance, and, most important, it usually does not stays for too long. You intuition should help you to recognize the moment when the time is right and you have to make the next move. Delaying it will be a mistake.

Your initial exchange with new friend should give you enough to decide whether you want to go further or not. As soon as you are getting to the last conclusion, the connection must be closed. Too long virtual flirting will not do much good. Here are the reasons:

When you feel that this particular pen pal of yours is not the one you were looking for, you have to quit the exchange at once. You don't need to give another person any false illusions, and you don't want to know better that person too - because this will make quitting harder. No matter how hard it may seem to say "no" sometime, it is always better to say it instead of getting dragged into a pointless and lengthy exchange. Do not wait, make your move as soon as you feel that this is not your match.

When the actual meeting is delayed, the imagination fills the blanks of a virtual friend. So instead of real person, you will have to deal with some ideal one. If ever the real person will materialize, the mismatch could be quite disappointing for both of you.

Internet dating networks provide everyone with thousands and thousands of excellent candidates for a date. So there is no need to waste each other time on a lengthy email exchange or pointless chat. Two, maybe three message exchanges and go to a real meeting, why wait? Either you will find each other and be happy, or move on, find somebody else, and be happy. Make it a win-win situation!

Good luck.



Des has one Ph.D. and one M.S., which are irrelevant to the major subject of his writing: relationships, personals and dating. To contact Des, see his other articles and/or access library of e-books and other materials on online dating, finding your match online, writing personal profiles, meeting single people and keeping healthy relationships, or to sign-up on web dating networks, visit Orbiana Web Dating Depot .